Have you ever stopped to think about how many ads use sex to sell a product? So many do that we can become numb to them. But if you stop to notice, you’ll see attractive people, mostly women, in advertising for every imaginable product. Many of these women are wearing tight, skimpy clothes and often […]
A lot of people I speak with say they’d like to feel more comfortable talking about sexuality with their partner or their kids, but don’t know how to start. So I’ll help! Part of what makes it hard is that we don’t do it very often. Sex is private and not a suitable topic in polite company. But there are plenty of things about sex and its meaning to us that are worth thinking about, and worth talking about.
Every couple of weeks, I’ll post a TalkStarter you can use to get conversations going with people important to you. Some are suitable for couples; some for you and any adults you’re close to; some for parents with kids of various ages. Hopefully the TalkStarters will give you food for thought and food for conversation.
Some couples are good to go when it comes to Valentine’s Day. You know a way to celebrate that’s fun for both of you, you’re happy with your relationship and your sex life, and it’s comfortable to talk about things. But other couples…might need a little boost. If you’d like a little help getting the […]
The easiest way to teach kids about pregnancy and conception is to let them ask—as most little kids will when they see a pregnant woman. “Why does Aunt Julie have a big belly?” “Why is Mrs. Smith so fat?” Your job is to answer the question—and continuing answering the follow-up questions until your child seems […]
Everyone knows the song Baby, It’s Cold Outside, performed by numerous artists over the years. I’ve always liked it—it’s fun, creative, and playful (and in a range I can sing along to 🙂 ). So I was a bit taken aback a couple years ago when a young woman I know referred to it as […]
What does the holiday story of Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer have to do with sex ed? Well, not much to do with sex, really. 🙂 But classic movies do give parents an opportunity to talk about gender roles and societal expectations. This is especially true for movies that were made in an earlier era. What […]
Teenagers can be tough to read. You know their heads are full of thoughts and questions about sex and relationships, but exactly what’s going on in there…who knows? Obviously every kid is different. But the young adults who responded to my survey give some clues about common questions and concerns. When I asked what they […]
Talking with your teen about sex improves his or her health. Obviously, knowledge about sex, reproduction, contraception, and sexually-transmitted infections goes a long way to preventing STIs and unplanned pregnancies. That information can come from you, from the school’s sex-ed program or health teacher, and from your child’s healthcare provider. But there are a couple […]
Teen styles are constantly changing, but one thing is true every year: Kids dress for social impact. They may not care what adults think about their clothing choices, but they care hugely what their peers think. Because many teens and preteens have so much energy about clothes, it’s a great opener for parents into their […]
For a moment, think back to the first time you had (consensual) sex. Is it a fond memory? an awful one? something in between? People have a huge range of experiences in this area, and those early experiences can color our sexual perspective and reactions long after. What impact has your first time had on […]
If your teen or preteen goes to camp, she’s put into an environment with kids outside her usual social milieu. Crushes, romances, and rivalries can develop; fascinating information (or misinformation, or rumors) about puberty and sex may be shared around the campfire. Kids may start thinking about these things more or differently than they usually […]