Consent is a complex topic. In theory, it’s easy: No means No and Yes means Yes. In reality, things can be murkier. Minds can change; someone can think a partner’s mind has changed when it hasn’t; there may be mixed signals. One way signals can be mixed is when a person’s body is aroused but their words and/or their clear body … Read More...
What Swing Dance Taught Me about Relationships
When I’m not being a writer and a therapist, I go dancing. Well, not all the time…but a lot. In particular, I go swing dancing. It’s a blast, it’s great exercise, … Read More...
What’s So Romantic About Walks on the Beach?
When you think of romantic things to do with someone you love, walking on the beach is probably on the short list. But what if you don’t live near a beach? No … Read More...
Should Your Toddler Be Naked at the Beach?
The joys of summer: lakes, beaches, pools; swimsuits instead of jackets. It’s wonderful to embrace the freedom of being outside and feeling the air on your … Read More...
What’s the Right Age to Have Sex for the First Time?
A lot of people worry that they’re out of step with what’s “right” or “normal” if they don’t do certain sexual things by certain ages. You may think you should “lose your virginity” by a specific age or there’s something wrong with you. (More later on why I put that in quotes.) You may visualize some […]
Mentioning the “M Word” to Your Kids
So, I can’t believe I almost missed International Masturbation Month. But there’s still time for me to write this post—and for you to use the word in front of your kids.* It’s not as difficult as you might think! (*And, of course, there’s no deadline. This is just an easy way to bring up the […]
When Should You Feel Guilty?
It never feels good to feel guilty. Most of us like to think of ourselves as good people who do the right thing and … Read More...
Do You Close the Door on the Birds and the Bees?
Talking about sex is so awkward that many parents want to put it off. Consciously or unconsciously, they miss … Read More...