We all have a sort of vague idea of what “romantic love” means. But there are folks who think about love for a living (really!) who can help the rest of us find language to understand and express what we feel—and what we want. Cornell professor Robert J. Sternberg developed what he calls the “Triangle […]
I know, I know…it’s almost too weird to even think about. But you remember being a teen. You remember the sexual feelings that could be so strong, whether or not you acted on them. So if you’re the parent of a teen, you have an idea what’s going on for them, even if, you know, […]
It’s easy to think about all the ways your parents didn’t do a great job teaching you about sexuality: the facts they avoided telling you, the times they freaked out or got judgy, the conversations they shut down, the things you wish you’d known. But they probably didn’t get it all wrong. Likely they told […]
You’ve probably heard a lot the past few years about “staying present” and “being in the moment.” They’re part of mindfulness, a practice with proven psychological benefits. When we let go of worries about the future and regrets and hurts from the past, we tend to be calmer and happier. Mindfulness is a wonderful way […]
Tickling isn’t always a problem; it’s fine if everyone agrees to it. How to use tickling to teach kids about consent.
When you buy pads or tampons, do you try to hide them from your kids? Do you avoid talking about your or your partner’s period when kids are around? If so, I respectfully suggest you try the opposite approach: Use periods as a conversation opener. Really. Having a period is a normal, healthy thing; it’s […]
When children are super-little, it’s easy: G-rated movies only. But it doesn’t take long before kids want to see shows whose ratings say they’re for an older audience. When are they ready? That depends on two things: your child’s temperament and the reason for the movie’s rating. How Your Kid Is If your child is […]
It can be hard to talk about sexuality with kids. It’s even harder if you think you need to have all the answers. Good news! You don’t need to know everything in order to be a valuable resource to your kids. Rather than worrying much about information, pay attention to the emotional tone of how […]
Parents’ healthy sex life models affection, teaches that sex is private and good, and strengthens the couple relationship, which gives kids stability.
Sometimes it seems like everyone is having sex with lots of people they hardly know. That’s actually not the case; many people choose physical intimacy only when they feel emotionally intimate. Other people have sex casually and love it; others hook up and don’t really like it. One size does not fit all. The key […]