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TalkStarter for Adults: What Was the Most Helpful Thing Your Parents Said about Sex?

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It’s easy to think about all the ways your parents didn’t do a great job teaching you about sexuality: the facts they avoided telling you, the times they freaked out or got judgy, the conversations they shut down, the things you wish you’d known. But they probably didn’t get it all wrong. Likely they told […]

What “Being in the Moment” Doesn’t Mean

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You’ve probably heard a lot the past few years about “staying present” and “being in the moment.” They’re part of mindfulness, a practice with proven psychological benefits. When we let go of worries about the future and regrets and hurts from the past, we tend to be calmer and happier. Mindfulness is a wonderful way […]

Casual Sex: Is It Right for You?

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Sometimes it seems like everyone is having sex with lots of people they hardly know. That’s actually not the case; many people choose physical intimacy only when they feel emotionally intimate. Other people have sex casually and love it; others hook up and don’t really like it. One size does not fit all. The key […]

Two Secrets to Successful Resolutions

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You’ve been there, right? Resolved that in the new year, you would do x—only to have your good intentions evaporate into daily reality before the end of January. Is there a better way? The secret to making changes in your life—at New Year’s or anytime—is moving toward what makes you feel happy, healthy, and energized. […]

Men, Women, & Self-Pleasuring

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Most people self-pleasure at least sometimes. Some people do it a lot. It’s normal. It’s healthy. But we don’t talk about it much. Well, sure, masturbation is private. But we need to talk about it enough that people know there’s nothing wrong with touching yourself in whatever ways feel good. That’s true for both men […]

Ghosting, Other Dating Trends, and Humans

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Halloween ghosts I’m good with. On real ghosts—spirits who haven’t crossed to the other side—I try to keep an open mind. But ghosting in relationships? That brings out the judgmental in me. In case you’ve missed it, “ghosting” is a “dating trend.” (More later on why I put that in quotes.) It’s when a person […]

Why Are Gender Pronouns Changing?

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You may have heard people talking about their “preferred gender pronoun.” Or noticed the trend to using “they” or “their” (rather than “he,” “his,” “she,” or “her”) to refer to a single individual. What’s going on? Why the fuss about pronouns? Why mess with the English language? If you or someone close to you is […]

How Often Should Couples Have Sex?

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When people wonder how often they “should” have sex, one of two things is likely going on. Sometimes they’re anxious about whether they’re “normal.” We talk so little about healthy sexuality that many of us don’t know where we stand, so we worry. The good news on this: The range of “normal” in human sexual […]