Since the rise of on-line dating, many first dates happen between people who’ve never met in person. There are so many possible partners out there that you ought to be efficient about how much time you invest on any one first date, right? Since you can pretty much tell in the first few minutes whether […]
The One Dating Convo You Absolutely Must Have
You’ve been dating Chris for months now. It feels so good to be together. Your conversations have gotten deeper, the sex is great, and you spend most of every weekend together. You text every day and have met each other’s friends. Sometimes there are hints about a future together. Obviously, you’ve become “a couple” and […]
How to Recover from a Break-Up
The end of a romantic relationship hurts, especially if it’s been serious. Break-ups can be hard even for the one who decides to leave, but of course are worse for the one who was left. If you find yourself hurting after a break-up, you may be so overwhelmed that you can’t think clearly. Because evolution […]
What Young People Wish They’d Known Earlier about Sex
There’s a ton of information out there for teens and young adults today. Between sex ed at school, on-line resources, sexually active friends, chat rooms, and pornography, you might think that young people know everything they need to about sex. But it turns out, they don’t. When I asked 900 young adults (age 18 to […]
35 Ways to Love Your Partner
You love your significant other. But life gets busy, and sometimes maybe you forget to express your love. Or the ways you show love are now so familiar that they might not have as much impact as they used to. But your partner needs to know that he or she matters. Even if your relationship […]
Ready for Sex? How to Know
For most people, deciding when to have sex—the first time with a new partner, or especially the first time ever—is a significant decision. Becoming sexually intimate with someone can change your relationship. Sometimes, it’ll even change you. Plus, it’s hard to tell what the effects will be. For some people, sex, even the first time, […]
My Body May Be Aroused–But I Still Don’t Want to Sleep with You
So there’s this interesting truth about women’s bodies: physical arousal and desire aren’t the same thing. It’s possible to want to have sex with your partner even if your body isn’t hot and bothered yet (because you love the person, want the connection, whatever). It’s also possible to experience all the signs of physical arousal […]
Four Keys to Being Romantic
This post first ran 8/30/14. What does “being romantic” mean to you? A walk on the beach? chocolates? flowers? a candlelit dinner? Any of those things can be romantic, or not, depending on several variables. If you want to do something romantic for your partner, consider these four things: Make sure it’s something he […]
Teens, Power, & Sex
There’s so much going on in teens’ social world that it can be hard for parents to know where to start. Even if kids were inclined to talk with parents about school social dynamics (which they usually aren’t), they’re so immersed in it that they have no frame of reference. We may not know the […]
4 Things You Should Never Tell Your Partner about Your Past
First posted 6/25/14 For the most part, I am a big fan of open communication between partners. If you’re in a serious relationship with someone, you want them to know a lot about you—the good and the bad. You want to be open enough that they can understand and love the true you. In most […]