Most folks have one sexual relationship at a time (at least once we’re beyond the young-adult stage). But there are some couples in committed relationships who choose to involve one or more third parties in their sex lives. This is not for everyone, of course. But in the interest of letting you know “what’s out […]

  If you’re looking for a great year in 2015, be sure to include strengthening your relationship. Here’s an idea takes only a couple of minutes a day—and the payoff is huge. The concept: Each day, think of one thing you love or appreciate about your partner, and tell him or her. Any positive thing […]

Now that most of the holiday busy-ness is over, you may need a chance to regroup. Here’s an idea I love: “soaking in bed.”* This doesn’t involve actual water—just giving yourself time to savor the warmth of your bed for a while after you’ve had a good sleep. It’s like the long weekend-morning sleeps you […]

Every family’s got at least one: a relative who behaves badly at holidays or who drives people crazy. Maybe it’s an uncle who drinks too much; an aunt who monopolizes conversations; a brother who never pitches in with the dishes—or anything else; a parent who asks intrusive questions; a cousin who delights in saying outrageous […]

Occasionally, I run across someone whose jealousy is out of hand. More often, a friend or client will say “I don’t want to be a jealous person,” meaning they don’t want to ever feel jealous—which means that their feelings go underground and may bubble up in unpleasant ways. Jealousy is a normal feeling. It’s nearly […]