I talk to a lot of young people about dating and sex these days. So I know that “dating” isn’t really the right word, because nobody goes on dates. People “hang out” or “hook up” or meet each other somewhere, but there’s little of that archaic “let’s go out for dinner and a movie” stuff.

And therein lies a huge opportunity for young men.

Because the girls want to go on a real date sometimes. Sure, they’re cool with just hanging out a lot of the time. And they don’t expect a guy to treat every time. But when a guy makes an effort to take a girl on an actual date, it makes her feel really special.

I know, it’s pretty retro. Decades ago, this approach was the norm, so young women took it for granted. Now, you can make an impact by doing any of the traditional components (even if you don’t do them all). Here’s what to try:

Phone her. Actually picking up the phone to talk has much more impact than texting. One, it’s rare, so it has more impact. Two, your voice conveys so much more warmth and energy than words on a screen do.

Pick her up. Rather than just meeting her somewhere, come by her dorm, house, or apartment and walk or drive together to your destination.

Treat her. You don’t have to pay all the time, especially if your budget is limited. But once in a while, take her to dinner or a movie. Or, plan a low-cost date like a picnic, where you demonstrate your caring for her by somehow making it special—bringing food she especially likes, or choosing a beautiful place, or bringing special touches like candles or a jar of wildflowers. What matters is the thought and the effort.

Put away your phone. In this day when we’re all on our devices all the time, it makes a huge impact to put them aside for an hour or two and just be with the person you’re with.

Take her home. There’s something nice, subtly protective, about being brought home safely. Sure, she’s quite capable of getting herself home; but your making the effort says that you care about her wellbeing.

Of course, taking a girl on a real date doesn’t necessarily increase your chances of getting laid that night (if that’s your goal). But if she’s a person you really like—someone you might want a relationship with—an old-fashioned date is a great way to show it.