My heart goes out to the celebrities whose private photos were recently hacked. Maybe they could have been more careful about security—but so could most of us. I feel bad enough for celebs who have an old compromising public photo surface years later—embarrassing, but the result of a choice. This recent hacking, though, is a total violation.

And it could happen to anyone (although maybe on a smaller scale).

Yes, taking a sexy selfie to give your partner can be exciting (and he’d probably love it). But even with a trusted partner, you can’t be absolutely sure it’ll never get out. What if a friend borrows his phone? What if someone repairing your computer finds it on your hard drive? What if, years from now, your kid finds it in a drawer?

I guess what I’m trying to say is: Our bodies really are private. We lose something when strangers see us naked—especially without our permission. That is an act of aggression.

For those of us who aren’t celebrities, I see two take-aways:

1)      Listen to the tech folks about data security.

2)      Be careful how, and to whom, you give it away. Whether “it” is sex or a sexy image, I believe it’s an important, intensely personal gift. Value yourself enough to give it carefully.